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Showing posts with label Gray Matters. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Gray Matters. Show all posts

Monday, July 14, 2025

She said

     If I really wanted to hurt hospital workers, would I go around telling everyone about it? I think not. And you can assume many things about Elle, but all I said was that I was her guardian angel, and if she needed anything, to find me. Do I actually expect her to come find me? No. But it's called gratitude. A strange way to express it, maybe. People make all sorts of assumptions. And if you're wondering, she did exactly what she was supposed to do. She knew I was a patient, because I told her who I was. 

    She said nothing at all. 

Communication

So I'm still working on communication. Trying to make sure that I'm saying what I mean and meaning, what I say. I need to improve my emotional regulation and avoid making extreme statements. When I get very triggered, it's like a flood of words. The patient observer in the hospital told me that she had 7 personalities.

I had not mentioned that I have did. She describes her personalities for me and described how she copes with life. She also shared with me the origins of her trauma. It was inspiring to talk to her.

I'm told some things are permanent. I'm trying to figure out how much. 

Monday, July 7, 2025

Ableism

Ableism is discrimination and prejudice against individuals with disabilities, based on the belief that typical abilities are superior. It manifests in various forms, including personal biases, systemic barriers, and harmful language. Ableism is rooted in the idea that people with disabilities are inherently less capable or valuable than non-disabled people. 
Here's a more detailed breakdown:
What is Ableism?
Discrimination and Prejudice:
Ableism is the belief that non-disabled people are superior to those with disabilities. It leads to prejudice and discriminatory practices against individuals with disabilities. 
Systemic and Personal:
Ableism can be systemic, embedded in laws, policies, and societal structures, or it can be personal, involving individual attitudes and behaviors. 
Forms of Ableism:
Personal Ableism: This includes individual acts of discrimination, like name-calling, or refusing accommodations. 
Systemic Ableism: This involves discriminatory practices embedded in institutions, such as inaccessible buildings or lack of access to education or healthcare. 
Benevolent Ableism: This involves well-intentioned actions that can still be harmful, like infantilizing or patronizing people with disabilities. 
Hostile Ableism: This involves overt hostility towards people with disabilities or their characteristics. 
Internalized Ableism: This occurs when individuals with disabilities internalize negative views about disability and discriminate against themselves or others. 
Language:
Ableist language is a common way that ableism is expressed, using words and phrases that demean or stereotype people with disabilities. 
Examples of Ableist Practices:
Lack of Accessibility: Buildings without ramps, elevators, or accessible restrooms. 
Inaccessible Websites: Websites that are not designed to be used by people with disabilities. 
Stereotypes and Assumptions: Believing that all people with disabilities are the same or that they are incapable of certain tasks. 
Exclusion from Decision-Making: Not including people with disabilities in conversations or decisions that affect them. 
Microaggressions: Subtle, often unintentional, expressions of prejudice. 
Consequences of Ableism:
Social Isolation:
People with disabilities may experience social isolation and exclusion. 
Reduced Opportunities:
Ableism can limit access to education, employment, and other opportunities. 
Negative Self-Esteem:
Internalized ableism can lead to low self-esteem and a negative self-image. 
Mental Health Issues:
Ableism can contribute to mental health problems for people with disabilities. 
Fighting Ableism:
Educate Yourself: Learn about ableism and its impact. 
Challenge Ableist Language: Avoid using ableist language and actively call it out. 
Promote Accessibility: Advocate for accessible environments and services. 
Listen to and Amplify Disabled Voices: Center the experiences and perspectives of people with disabilities. 
Be an Ally: Support and advocate for disability rights and inclusion. 

Wednesday, July 2, 2025

 

And for my next twick! I will make my internist reappear! <cough cough> ... ??? <COUGH COUGH> POOF! Der she is!

Social

     One of these days I'm going to learn how to be social better. I swear I don't know how to react to people in real time. I don't actually know what they want. I wish I could say different. But the psychiatrists get tired. And I've collected too many Dx's. That and clozaril not working out was why I got the counselor in the first place. I can't keep track of all of this without her.

Tuesday, July 1, 2025

Metaphor Shopping



    Vell, let's see what Home Freako has on sale today! Hmmmmm... Zis isle has zee Mental Health Problems... no... I think we have those... 

It's not that i dont want to do more...

    But I need to communicate better. Otherwise, it's just back and forth. I know there are people rooting for me. My friends from grade school. My nieces and nephews. But every time I talk to someone it seems like something gets miscommunicated. It seems like a push and pull. Like conversations are battles. Except for a very few key people. The internist seemed a bit mystified, but I got what I needed. She was very helpful. A shot and some recommendations for my ears and stomach.

Monday, June 16, 2025

Thank You

 

Dear Elly,

    I needed to thank you. I needed someone to trust. You did well. I'm sorry about asking for the hug. I'm sorry they started calling you my girlfriend. But I think you should be proud. I think you did the right thing. I'm proud of you for that. I'm proud of what you taught me. I'm glad you were there. Maybe someday I'll figure out how to please everyone at once. So far, my track record isn't great.

Ashes

Saturday, June 14, 2025

Gender Differences in Healthcare



    I think some people are missing the point. I needed a different perspective from medically perfectionist liberalized medicine. I wasn't getting the perspective I needed. I needed someone to point out the insanity of what was going on. And I found those people. I found them in a black female doctor, a male PA, two female LPCs, and a female NP internist. 

    These people are giving me that different perspective. Maybe I could have found more white male practitioners who could give me that perspective. Maybe not. But what I know for sure is that this has to stop. I picked people that were not part of the club on purpose. The meds weren't working out. I was misled. They weren't helping me. Now I'm on different ones. I have to keep in the middle, wherever that path is exactly. The doctors will always try. They can't help themselves. They need something to fix. Like a bored auto mechanic. I need people to stop trying to fix me. It's really run amuck. I can't imagine what my healthcare has cost in total. I need to focus on de-medicalizing my mind, unlearning what I was taught. Medication is definitely dangerous. I'm not actually trying to antagonize people. But I was misled about medication. It's dangerous. I was misled about Bipolar. I was misled about CBT and how men can be healthy as men. 

Friday, June 13, 2025

Attention

I have some resentments regarding Healthcare that I need to move past. Funny thing is, the harder I try to avoid attracting attention, the more I seem to get. Like the doctor is always watching and the next hospital visit is just a breath away. I thought writing those poems for the hospitals would be like a goodbye. They weren't helping me. Not that much. They had already done what they could. I had been there enough. Yet they keep inviting me back. Maybe they'll ship me to Georgia next time. I'm sure GA dept of health would love that. 

I can't keep doing these hospitals. I don't have it in me. It just doesn’t make sense.  It does look like Munchousens or something. It makes no sense. You'd think I had cancer or something. And I definitely do not. They cant even agree on what the problem is, much less what to do about it. Just a bunch of short term, bandaid solutions. Alphabet soup diagnoses. I still like most of the people, but its hard to believe in the mission. Then they seem to resent my cynicism. But we'll see. 

I used to be an idealist. I can still play the part, but its hard to put the money where the mouth is. And it is hard to understand other people's perception of me. They surprise me all the time. Only lately not in good ways. Makes me wonder where this goes. It makes me nervous. Theres so much bitterness. Touch and go. Then they wonder why I don't speak. I wish the er would have respected my wishes and sent me home. Or at least told me the truth about the screwy lab results. Boggles my mind. We couldn't find anything? It makes no sense to lie like that. Unless they simply wanted to refuse treatment but couldn't legally do that. Of course they'll deny it. We're getting used to lies.

Thursday, June 12, 2025

How Helping Works

    In the military, they like to say that a combat operation never goes exactly as planned. The same thing is true for everyday life. My life has not gone as planned. For damn sure. However, losing a battle does not mean losing the war. I certainly hope I don't have to start spreading rumors about dating my psychiatrist to get it into people's heads that spreading lies about professionals is not wise. I like different kinds of people. They can all contribute in slightly different ways. I've known all sorts of people. 

    I do have moral responsibilities. I'm trying to build something positive here, while preparing to return to doing some accounting. I feel a moral duty to warn people about forced medication, drug cocktails, overmedication, medicalized perfection, toxic gender stereotypes, toxic CBT, and abuse in Greenville County. You can question my methods. You can question the results. You can't question my mission. 

    Sometimes life involves different emotions. For the benefit of people with low emotional intelligence, I'm going to start writing about what I believe emotions teach us. We are emotional animals. it's hardwired in because emotions help us learn about the world. 

Tuesday, June 10, 2025

Lost and Rigged

     I remember Lost and Rigged very fondly. I particularly liked the nurse manager and my psychologist. I've been all over the East Coast. It was expensive. But well done.

Invitations

    I invited staff and former staff of the following institutions to contact me, anonymously or otherwise, to share some feedback on this website, keeping in mind that this is an effort to improve health outcomes in Greenville County. You will not be named or referenced. 

    I welcome any information or input you may have on improving outcomes in Greenville County. Please email ashesndust@outlook.com.

Austen Riggs Center

McLean Hospital

MIP

Springbrook

SC Public Health

Gateway House

MUSC

    I would like to know what you think. I'm trying to slow down the content creation, sort better, improve quality, and remove some copyrighted material.

The Right Thing

    Just because I care about people doesn't mean I'm on their side. It doesn't mean I support what they do. But advocacy is important. And I'm trying to help people. Even if I have to drag them kicking and screaming. If nothing else, I can warn people about the dangers of Greenville County. So they can be safer in their own lives. 

Monday, June 9, 2025

Just for the record...


    Looking up Elle was a mistake, but if you know anything about trauma, anything at all, then it's not actually surprising. I know she knows why I did it. I shouldn't even have to explain myself to people. A handful of text messages is not a big deal. I knew her a long time. I know Leaves and Molly know why. Anyways, that was a long time ago. She's out there, she's safe, that's what matters. And she knows how to find me. I gave her everything. Not exactly a criminal mastermind. Why do I feel afraid? I don't know, exactly. The world seems chaotic. But people have to help one another. I feel safer when the people who understand are nearby. She was one. She could read me. I think I was pretty good at reading her too.

For Nurses

 


Saturday, June 7, 2025

Family for Medically Complex Children, In Cooperation with Greenville Psychiatropy

There's something rotten in the state of South Carolina.


The Dissociation formerly known as Robert, F'dhD. And everyone fucking knows already, so get over yourselves.

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Past Reflections