Coregulation

Some people do not understand coregulation. Emotions are like germs. They are contagious. Sadness to sadness, anger to anger.

    I remember this story.  This guy in Japan on a subway, encounters a drunk lashing out in anger. Like elle to me, he treats the drunk like a dear lost friend. And so the anger melts away. 

    I remember Kenzie. She just laughed and laughed and laughed. Instead of being confrontational and threatening, she laughed with warmth and empathy. I did not need to be perfect with her. Perhaps the hospital ran out of patience. But a lack of patience can be dangerous. It was an ugly end. They always find something wrong with me, instead of finding the right. That is thier mistake. People are not robots to be fixed. Sometimes one has to walk away. Like Elle did. Better to walk away then lash out in anger. Regret is a harsh teacher.